How would that look in this scenario?

I'm a stranger, and I side with her friend and tell her, don't go.

How does anyone stop her from going in a car with a bunch of dudes who are asking her to come with them?

In your scenario you want me to get into a physical fight with these guys? Who have, at this point... Done what? A thought crime? They invited a drunk woman back to their place.

Should that be illegal? Probably. But it isn't. So your solution is I get beat up or beat up these guys, we probably go to jail for public fighting or hospital...

Like... Her best friend was her ally here. What's a strange man going to do?

I know you mean well. But l've gotten in fights to stop rapists. And let me tell you, it isn't whatever fantasy you're playing out in your head. Nobody thanks you. You get fucked.

And in my limited experience... Having done it idk a half dozen times... You can't stop a drunk person. Especially when they are blacked out as OP describes. If blacked out, she won't remember and will not be grateful. If simply drunk she will resent you forever because you took away her free will and intervened where it wasn't your business.

I had a friend who stepped up in a situation and while his conscience is clear the woman he stood up for chose to hold it against him and ruined his reputation.

For years OP framed this situation as an act of spontaneous and frivolous fun.

If some strange man had stopped her... That probably would have been her frame for the rest of her life. Some toxic white knight simp stopped me from the most fun ever because he was jealous. It took years for her to come to the conclusion the men were evil and she was taken advantage of.

She had someone there trying to protect her. It didn't work.

A strange man might have been able to fight or talk the men out of it. But I've been that dude, and I've failed to be that dude, and you pay a social and moral price either way... I just think idk... It isn't as cut and dry as you think it is. And also... Guys who say, oh I'd stop a rapist... I hate it.

I wrote one of the stories about it... One where it was mostly a funny exchange but... I guess. You are not being vigilant, it's not just in bars. Domestic violence is common.

If you really want to be an aly and light someone up, open your eyes and ears. Start being someone women trust. Because here's another thing, when you say light em up... Women hear that , women who are being abused and they think, this guy is toxic and will escalate. So they will hide it from you.

We live in a rape culture. 0 doubt in my mind you know and interact with abusers. Figure out who they are and tell them to knock it off.

And idk... Write about that experience.

Sorry I'm so triggered but I hope some of this makes you think and wasn't 100% annoying.

This story and your response clearly struck some memories for me.