I date a ton as well. When I write about it, I tend to focus on my outrageous or heartbreaking stories as those have clear conflict or arch... But I love how you take your stories and create essays and lessons.

I agree there are no leagues. But people telegraph what they are into. Opposites attract isn't as true as birds of a feather.

There was a great okcupid blogger who did a social experiment.

She kept her profile the same. (Basic girl. I am comfortable going out or staying in and watching TV. Please, make me laugh.)

Then did 4 sets of different photo shoots.

Goth, preppy, sporty, hipster...

And shared the resulting emails. Some guys sent her 4 emails. Code switching to different vibes. But most people only targeted specific looks.

And some people would get weirdly angry about the goth look.