So there are a handful of comments where people say, this is hard. And you respond roughly, "Tell me why it's hard."

Here is my attempt.

Be kinder than me. Be more generous than me. Hold me as I cry all night. Also help me study. Also don't fuss if I miss dinner. Also anticipate when I need space.

Read three books about female sexuality and orgasm.

If the woman he's dating is sexually traumatized (studies say 4/5 are) that's above your pay grade but the guy should be able to help her find therapy.

If you did all you listed, I'd say you should be proud. But again, by admission in the article you don't hit the standard you're setting.

Doesn't that makes it sound hard? Can you give a little bit of acknowledgedment? Like why does it also have to be easy? Why can't it be, a guy should be and have all these traits. It's difficult, but worth it!

Too me, the basic lines you list are hard.

It is hard to be generous. It is hard to be kind.

Being generous means giving from your needs. Giving when it isn't easy. Being kind, means turning the other cheek.

And you acknowledge this when you say he's kinder than you. He is kind in situations you'd find it difficult to be kind.

It's good to strive for all these things, of course. But you're describing a Saint in the detailed descriptions.

And... This is annoying. But my bias here is, there are a handful of women in my social media feed who write very similarly about the men they date... Until they break up with them.

And then they write about how the dude was never this way.

What you've written about your significant other is very kind. I believe it's true. But it is also rose colored in the absence of his flaws.

And that's another reason it reads as hard. You're not shallow, but in this description, as a man reading this, it feels you are not seeing the whole 3d human being. It feels, emotionally, like a pedistal you're gonna topple later when you see the mortal underneath. That might be way off base. But that's what it felt like reading it.

If you hadn't said it's easy. I'd have just said, this is a beautiful piece of writing.

It is beautiful. It is both kind and generous and emblematic of your significant other. I'm happy for you. I'm proud of him.

I just admit, (while my gf would hopefully disagree,) I don't live up to this standard, and don't think that makes me a slacker.